Making the reservation is the easy part, holding it is the hardest. Here's a great article from 43 Folders:
Resolved: Stop Blaming the Pancake | 43 Folders: "My bet is that most people who are seeing the kind of change and growth and improvement that sticks tend to avoid these sorts of dramatic, geometric attempts to leap blindly toward the mountain of perfection.
I’ll go further and say that the repeated compulsion to resolve and resolve and resolve is actually a terrific marker that you’re not really ready to change anything in a grownup and sustainable way. You probably just want another magic wand.
Otherwise you’d already be doing the things you’ve resolved to do. You’d already be living those changes. And, you’d already be seeing actual improvements rather than repeatedly making lists of all the ways you hope your annual hajj to the self-improvement genie will fix you.
Then, of course, we make things way worse by blaming everything on our pancakes."
"At this point, you have logistical options for both execution
and troubleshooting:
- Make a modest plan that you can envision actually doing without upending your real life;
- Build more sturdy scaffolding for sticking with whatever plan you’ve chosen;
- Make a practice of learning to not mind the duds–including those messed-up first pancakes;
- Or–seriously?–just accept that you never really cared that much about making breakfast in the first place.Care is not optional.
Otherwise, really, you’d never need to
resolve to do
anything. You’d already just be cooking a lot. Instead of being all mad and depressed about not cooking.
But, please. All I really ask of you.
Don’t blame the pancake."